Episode #35 You're Allowed to LOVE

Have you ever been in a situation where you simply decide to show kindness ...even though the odds are against any chance you would have received it if the tables were turned?  Those moments are powerful reminders that kindness, thoughtfulness, and love are not really about actions being earned or deserved - they are about a choice we are making about how to show up in life.

Remember the end of Wonder Woman when she resists her rage and chooses love ...or The Return of the Jedi when Luke won't give in to the Dark Side.  Even though deep down we all kind of wanted to see him kill them both!!  These scenes are examples that we have a choice ...and that anger doesn't win the day.

Gandhi, Mother Theresa, Martin Luther King Jr, Jesus - these are all people who chose respect, kindness, and love over anger, hate, and violence ...and they ACTUALLY made a difference.  When I watch the movie of their life, there's this part of me that wants them to lash out, I want to see the rage fuel the fight that leads to victory - I want to see my version of justice played out.  But in each case, they chose to change the world instead.  

We have the same choice - we could demand justice, we could allow our anger to grow and fuel our fight, we could put our value in our ability to win ...OR, we could actually live an awesome life.  We could choose to change what we think about the hand we've been dealt.  We can choose our response.

I know, I know - easy for me to say.  I can't argue, I live a blessed life, but I'll differ to my man Viktor Frankl to add a little weight to this idea.

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." - Viktor Frankl