Confessions of a Recovering Striver
Welcome friend! My name is Whitney Roehl (friends call me, "Whit") and I'm a recovering Striver.
What is a striver?
Someone who practices trying hard, to achieve something, from self-determination. For me, it was constantly striving, for years, as a wife, mom, entrepreneur, leader, and self-development... but nothing was ever "good enough". I constantly needed to do more, have more, so I could BE more, AKA to feel worthy and deserving of love.
It was exhausting, stealing my joy and peace, no matter what I achieved.
Until Jesus crashed in with His personable grace, revelation, and love. From that restoration, the idea of this blog was birthed -
Confessions of a Recovering Striver.
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From Striving For Love to Resting From Love
If you can relate to any part of that, then I welcome you with a BIG hug and have great news for you, friend.
Jesus graciously met me in my fear-based, compulsive, self-dependent striving. He untangled me from that worldly-paradigm to set me free, and He can do the same for you... if you choose.
I can honestly say, the result of His gracious work with my willingness has resulted in less busyness, resting in His love, and living more FROM His abundance.
It's literally been life-changing!
Now, I'm passionate about imparting the same freedom and love I've received - which is what inspired this blog.
These posts will include paradigm-shifting revelations from His Word, personal testimonies from my nomadic-family-life, and God-inspired encouragements.
I'm genuinely honored you've chosen to read my confessions. I pray my blog imprints your heart, as God invites you deeper with Him, just like He did for me.
P.S. You'll find older blog posts here too. Those have lots of value too, if you choose to explore, you're welcome to.
This is how super heroes are formed:
1. Tragic event
2. Discovery of "new normal"
3. Resistance ...why can't things just be the way they were?
4. The epiphany, "Wait a minute ...I can help people & save lives. This isn't a curse, it's a gift!!!"
This is their "Origin Story" -...
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That spirit of adventure, courage, and freedom is so attractive to...
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- Theodore Roosevelt
Whether it's building with instructions, driving with directions, or working out with an...
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It can be as simple as a...
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Whether working with clients or navigating our own journey, it seems that Whitney and I spend a lot of time talking about the feelings that aren't serving us and how to choose thoughts that give us access to feelings that DO serve us.
There are feelings, like worry, that are...
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This past week was both a celebration and time of reflection. A bittersweet for sure.
It reminded me of the two different people I've had the experience of being.
Here's what I mean.
Do you ever look at pictures of yourself and think back to how you were feeling?
I do. So powerful- right?...
Once just a kid who played a little volleyball in Chicago, Kevin Barnett made the BOLD move to California at the age of 18 with no home, no job, no connections, and no plans ...well, no plans except to play professional volleyball.
Now, the 2 time Olympian is the voice of the AVP -...
None of us are going to brag about allowing self-pity to invade our lives, but for some reason, from time to time, we find ourselves right in the middle of a pity party we are throwing for ourselves? Why do I do that???
Basically - it's the same reason I give into any...
It turns out the mountain is one heck of a teacher...
Renee: It's not just that I CAN do hard things, I WANT to do hard things
Gary: I have to take a challenge as big as this and break it into small pieces. Then as I go from one small piece to the next, I...