Confessions of a Recovering Striver

 

 

Whit's Adventures and Blog

 

Welcome, friend! I'm Whitney Roehl, I'm a recovering Striver. What is a striver?

 

For me, it was constantly aiming for perfection, relying on my own ambition, strength, and ability. As a Christian, I'd ask God for help but He was my last resort, not my first. Nothing was ever "good enough"I constantly needed to do more, to have more.

I felt empty and exhausted.

 

When, I finally got to the end of myself, Jesus crashed in with His personable love.

Since then, I've repented of being self-sufficient, constantly striving. Now, I live surrendered. Join me, on this journey.

 

Episode #58 Holiday Traditions vs Healthy Habits Nov 22, 2018

 

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Episode #57 Creating that Christmas Connection Nov 15, 2018

 

My family has celebrated the holidays with church services, gifts, lip-sync contests, polka dancing, sporting events, Christmas cookies, movie marathons, sleep-overs, all night video game marathons, trips to Disneyland, family skits, days at the beach, hiking, rock climbing, Christmas...

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Episode #56 Story Time: The Story you Tell about You - Part 4 Nov 08, 2018

 

The first time I heard this famous quote from Teddy Roosevelt I was in Mr Barry's class in high school in 1991.  He was an inspirational teacher to me and this quote connected with me on a deep level.  There was a seed planted that day - and in 1995, it became the permanent...

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Episode #55 Story Time: The Story you Tell about You - Part 3 Nov 01, 2018

 

 

In this episode, I asked Whitney about the difficulty she found while she was still living in one story, but attempting to write ...and BELIEVE a new one.  She came up with insightful defense mechanisms that her brain used to keep her safe and stuck.

Thoughts like:

"What are...

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Episode #54 Story Time: The Story you Tell about You - Part 2 Oct 25, 2018

 

This is how super heroes are formed:

1. Tragic event

2. Discovery of "new normal"

3. Resistance ...why can't things just be the way they were?

4. The epiphany, "Wait a minute ...I can help people & save lives.  This isn't a curse, it's a gift!!!"

This is their "Origin Story" -...

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Episode #53 Story Time: The Story you Tell about You - Part 1 Oct 18, 2018

 

Throughout my childhood I was cut from teams, I made errors that let my team down, I was frustrated to tears when a skill I was working on eluded me, I ended up in last place, I wasn't "picked" by my friends, I was laughed at for making mistakes, and I even lost control of my emotions and...

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The Trip that Altered Me Forever Oct 16, 2018

I don’t know about you, but when I see people who surf, climb mountains or seek out challenges that require facing fear and discomfort- I WANT what they have, but I tell myself “it’s just not MY thing.

That spirit of adventure, courage, and freedom is so attractive to...

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Episode #52 Perfect Plans may not be Perfect Oct 11, 2018

 

"In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing."

- Theodore Roosevelt 

Whether it's building with instructions, driving with directions, or working out with an...

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Episode #51 Aim before you Shoot Oct 04, 2018

There is no doubt that life is about 97% journey and only 3% destination, but it's really important you choose a destination before you start your journey.  Your journey WILL take you somewhere, so its a smart move to take the time to aim at where the somewhere is.

It can be as simple as a...

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Episode #49 Its going to take a little Courage Sep 20, 2018

 

I'll keep this short and sweet - life is a process, not a result.  When you climb a mountain you spend 97% of your time getting up or getting down, but only 3% on the top.  Life is the same, there are times when we have those "I have arrived" type moments, but they are short...

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Episode # 48: When it Feels Good to Feel Bad Sep 13, 2018

 

Whether working with clients or navigating our own journey, it seems that Whitney and I spend a lot of time talking about the feelings that aren't serving us and how to choose thoughts that give us access to feelings that DO serve us.  

There are feelings, like worry, that are...

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Episode #47 Believe something you've never believed Sep 06, 2018

 

When I was 13 years old, I was 4'-11", I was a freshman in high school, and I weighed 95lbs.  If you asked me if I was planning to play football - I would look at you sideways and tell you there was not a chance.  If you pressed about any other sports, I'd tell you I was going...

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