One morning of The Six Man – our team was a little flat. We knew it – shoot, most of us were coaches!! We could feel it and knew that if we couldn’t turn the tide – if we couldn’t shift the momentum, then we’d lose, but didn’t have a great idea how to fix it. This is where we get a false message from WATCHING sports in my opinion. How often have you heard the announcer say, “Somebody has to step up and make a play.” Basically saying, “Someone on the team needs to take responsibility to change a circumstance to cause a better feeling for the team.” But we know better …circumstances don’t cause feelings, thoughts do! What if you didn’t need to wait for a “big play” – what if you could simply start thinking the thoughts NOW – and generate the feelings of confidence, empowerment, and resolve to overcome NOW?
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Have you ever lost your cool in an argument on social media ...me too. Usually because the OTHER person is refusing to live by the FACTS I am offering. Well it's a FACT that attempting to change a belief by bombarding it with facts is ineffective ...so I guess I am the one not living by the facts. The same is true with the beliefs we want to change in our OWN MIND. Have a listen and let's get this sorted out.
Plan - Execute - Evaluate - Adjust - Repeat
As 2018 comes to an end, Whitney and Jake invite you into the conversation as they look back at the fears that threatened to keep them stuck in 2018. Enjoy the conversation ...but more importantly, let it spark your own. What did your relationship with fear look like this year? How will it look next year?
“If you have declared war against the primary part of you called fear, and that war is now playing out in your mind, you’re spending a lot of energy fighting that war. That doesn’t leave a lot of energy for you to compete in your sport. In many ways, over time that war becomes exhausting. In order to get away from that war, people will quit their sport. And people feel like they’re burnt out on their sport but really they’re burnt out on the repression of fear and how much energy that takes.” - Kristen Ulmer
The is an alternative to resisting fear. In the work we do with clients we refer to the facts of a situation as "the C-Line". Even thought fear is an emotion, what if you decided it was a fact? What if you decided that resisting fear was as silly as resisting time?
Try this - just stick fear in the C-Line, then CHOOSE what you think about it. I've had WAY more success with that than...
What are you scared of? ...the list is pretty standard. Spiders, snakes, clowns, the dark, and tight spaces. My guess is that THOSE are not the fears that are keeping you from your dreams.
"I WOULD try out for the play ...but there might be a spider, and I don't like how dark it is back stage." - I feel confident that the truth has more to do with being in the spot light, feeling embarrassed, being judged and found lacking, failing publicly ...etc. Or to sum it all up, a fear of attention
In this episode, we get REAL about the REAL fears that keep us from pursuing our passions, keep us stuck in relationships that aren't healthy, or have us continuing to work at a job that makes us feel small year after year.
What if you could be free from THESE fears - or at least free from they power they wield in your life? Then what would be possible?
When you look at the role fear makes in your decision making, do you ever give it magical powers? Sometimes I do. I'll have an idea about something I can build or create. Maybe a unique way that I can offer value to the world - and I'll feel fear. Then I have thoughts ABOUT that fear like - "Oh man, I wonder why I'm scared - maybe I should wait on this." or "I have a bad feeling about this, maybe I shouldn't do it."
When I stop and reflect on my logic ...logic which I often categorize as "being realistic" by the way, I am giving my fear this sort all knowing power about the future. I am making my fear a supernatural power that can tell me if my present choice will pan out or not. Isn't it interesting how it always says, "No ...you'll probably die."
The underlying thoughts is this: "If this were REALLY a good idea, I wouldn't feel any fear." Do I really want that thought running my life? What if I practiced a different...
Responsibility is not blame - responsibility is your ABILITY to respond, it is taking ownership of reality instead living within the fantasy of what SHOULD be.
Responsibility and Freedom are directly proportional - the more responsibility you take in your life, the more freedom you experience. When that responsibility is connected to being hurt or offended, we call it forgiveness.
Forgiveness is about CHOOSING to let go of the IMPACT of an event. It’s offering yourself the opportunity to regain the energy that’s wasted when you hold on to the hurts, the slights, and the pains of the past.
It IS about letting go of the impact on us
“As long as we hold onto the myth that not forgiving is protection, then we’re frozen in place.” - Dr. Lee Baucom
We all have HOLIDAY traditions we love - opening presents on Christmas Eve or waiting for Christmas morning, making gingerbread houses at Thanksgiving, putting up Christmas decorations on Black Friday (or November 1st in my case), or maybe you like to eat 2 entire pies on Thanksgiving Day....
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