Confessions of a Recovering Striver
Welcome friend! My name is Whitney Roehl (friends call me, "Whit") and I'm a recovering Striver.
What is a striver?
Someone who practices trying hard, to achieve something, from self-determination. For me, it was constantly striving, for years, as a wife, mom, entrepreneur, leader, and self-development... but nothing was ever "good enough". I constantly needed to do more, have more, so I could BE more, AKA to feel worthy and deserving of love.
It was exhausting, stealing my joy and peace, no matter what I achieved.
Until Jesus crashed in with His personable grace, revelation, and love. From that restoration, the idea of this blog was birthed -
Confessions of a Recovering Striver.
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From Striving For Love to Resting From Love
If you can relate to any part of that, then I welcome you with a BIG hug and have great news for you, friend.
Jesus graciously met me in my fear-based, compulsive, self-dependent striving. He untangled me from that worldly-paradigm to set me free, and He can do the same for you... if you choose.
I can honestly say, the result of His gracious work with my willingness has resulted in less busyness, resting in His love, and living more FROM His abundance.
It's literally been life-changing!
Now, I'm passionate about imparting the same freedom and love I've received - which is what inspired this blog.
These posts will include paradigm-shifting revelations from His Word, personal testimonies from my nomadic-family-life, and God-inspired encouragements.
I'm genuinely honored you've chosen to read my confessions. I pray my blog imprints your heart, as God invites you deeper with Him, just like He did for me.
P.S. You'll find older blog posts here too. Those have lots of value too, if you choose to explore, you're welcome to.
There are certain emotions that are just a bit more enjoyable to experience than others and in full transparency, if resisting, numbing, or pretending they weren’t there actually worked - I’d be the first in line to learn how to do it.
But the truth is that the more we try to resist...
Whit and I had the chance to coach the amazing Skye Dumont and you get to sit in on the session.
- Learn about her framework for obstacles
- Understand how she sees her journey and where Whit spots adjustments in her thinking
- Gain insights into her vision for her future, her plan for stewarding her...
Enjoy this Q&A with Whit as she gets vulnerable about the fears, the negative self-talk, the uncertainty - and the compassion that changed it all.
If you are looking for big growth, but find that you are denying yourself the experience of being grateful for the blessings you’ve already...
Powerful question - is that 100% true? Because if it’s not, then its not a fact - it’s a choice
We make the choice (consciously or subconsciously), then we never look back and think it was a fact. No problem - unless its a problem and I start believing that dreams of mine...
When you set out on an adventure, people love to say, “Be safe out there.” …and I totally get what they mean, but the TRUTH is that being safe is NOT why we got there.
In school we’d always hear adults sayin, “Safety first.” - but I believe that is why so...
We all believe that holding our standards and demanding people rise to meet them is a powerful stance - but it is NOT!!
The most powerful person in the room is the person who does not need anyone in the room to do or be any particular thing in order for them to be okay.
The person who has the...
Cognitively we KNOW that forgiveness is a good thing, but what about our safety?
If I forgive, doesn’t that just let them off the hook?
Doesn’t it remove ANY accountability for their actions?
How will they learn their lesson?
Won’t people just walk all over me?
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Dr. Bob Rotella puts it in his book "Golf is Not a Game of Perfect”:
"The trusting mentality is essential for getting ready to play competitively. If you want to be able to trust your swing on the golf course, you have to spend time doing it on the practice tee. Human beings are creatures...
“I can’t disappoint people - I just have a big heart” - Do you? Or are you really just avoiding the emotion that comes up when your actions don’t match someone else’s expectation?
Disappointing people is simply a name we give to the experience of making choices that...
There is NO benefit to guilt!! Okay ...maybe there’s a tiny miniscule benefit, but the way you show up in guilt is so unhealthy that even THAT doesn’t get to add value to your life.
So what DOES it look like to show up WELL in guilt?
- You don’t over explain yourself
Skip the “pros and cons list” it’s ineffective and it leads you to this stressful place where your decision making skill is more like future predicting skill. If I have to know the future to make good choices ...then yes, I am definitely living in stress!!
So what if you...