Confessions of a Recovering Striver
Whit's Adventures and Blog
Welcome, friend! I'm Whitney Roehl, I'm a recovering Striver. What is a striver?
For me, it was constantly aiming for perfection, relying on my own ambition, strength, and ability. As a Christian, I'd ask God for help but He was my last resort, not my first. Nothing was ever "good enough". I constantly needed to do more, to have more.
I felt empty and exhausted.
When, I finally got to the end of myself, Jesus crashed in with His personable love.
Since then, I've repented of being self-sufficient, constantly striving. Now, I live surrendered. Join me, on this journey.
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.
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Dr. Bob Rotella puts it in his book "Golf is Not a Game of Perfect”:
"The trusting mentality is essential for getting ready to play competitively. If you want to be able to trust your swing on the golf course, you have to spend time doing it on the practice tee. Human beings are creatures...
“I can’t disappoint people - I just have a big heart” - Do you? Or are you really just avoiding the emotion that comes up when your actions don’t match someone else’s expectation?
Disappointing people is simply a name we give to the experience of making choices that...
There is NO benefit to guilt!! Okay ...maybe there’s a tiny miniscule benefit, but the way you show up in guilt is so unhealthy that even THAT doesn’t get to add value to your life.
So what DOES it look like to show up WELL in guilt?
- You don’t over explain yourself
- You...
Skip the “pros and cons list” it’s ineffective and it leads you to this stressful place where your decision making skill is more like future predicting skill. If I have to know the future to make good choices ...then yes, I am definitely living in stress!!
So what if you...
The thing about myths is that they tend to keep us in a box. Then we use the limits of the box to determine if we’re doing good or bad - and if we are or are not capable of success in the future.
In this episodes, Whit Busts these FOUR MYTHS about weightloss
- I MUST eat perfectly at...
It’s a pretty common cycle when you’re trying to change an eating habit - restrict, overeat, guilt, restrict ...ad nauseum. The big error is actually WHERE we attempt to disrupt this cycle. Right in the little space between restrict and fail.
The REAL culprit is the...
I've wanted to be the hero since I can remember. My first concussion came from jumping off of a boulder onto my dad without him knowing because I had seen the hero do it on TV.
Unfortunately that incident was not enough to teach me the danger of the love affair with swooping to the...
You open the fridge, you see the cupcakes, you’re tired - it’s been a long day, you decide to just eat one, then you feel terrible. WHY would I eat that at 10pm?? Now the one next to it starts to look really good - and you know where it goes from here.
Whit and Jake do it...
1. Take on the IDENTITY FIRST, then work toward the action
2. Use your VALUES to build a lifestyle
3. Learn to watch out for AVOIDANCE
4. FORGIVE and communicate BOLDLY
5. Give because you CHOOSE GENEROSITY
6. Make a CUE based plan
What do you do when the people you love have the opposite view as you on the day’s hot button issue? What if it’s your coworker that you see everyday ...or your parents, your kids, or your spouse?
How do you stay in the conversation when the conversation feels shut down right...
Whit’s stress management style is extremely effective and a bit different than Jake’s. She treats stress as an emotion and uses her breath and meditation as effective ways to dance with it.
It is important to Whit that she doesn’t attack, resist, or attempt to escape from...
