Self-love is an important part of living well and being happy. Which is partially why this month I’m focusing on fostering more self-love. I'm not talking about becoming more self-centered but being mindful of the thoughts I choose, practicing good self-care, and acceptance.
I’ve noticed this past year that, like many people, I'm hyper-critical of myself and this negatively affects my experience in the world as well as my judgments of others. It's the subconscious negative self-talk that steals joy in both my life and relationships. So, it’s something I started to work on about a year ago.
It really began in my experience losing 40 lbs. I remember noticing for the first-time thoughts I would have that made me want to self-sabotage. For example, I’d walk by a mirror, glance at my thighs and arms and say to myself, “Ugh, I’m so unattractive, who would ever love someone with massive thighs and arms like mine.” Instantly,...
Let's face it, we live in a culture that is obsessed with results. Often that works against us when we are looking to learn something new. The cultural expectations put a lot of "shoulds" in our minds. I should have started this when I was younger. I should have accomplished these goals by this point in my life. If I was ever going to be able to do this, I should have done it by now. When professional beach volleyball player Riley McKibbon discusses working through his frustrations in preseason training, he says, "Should is the demon child of hard work without direction and arbitrary expectations."
Getting your "shoulds" out into the light can bring a ton of clarity to their value in your life. When I do this, I usually find that my "shoulds" are not helping me at all and I happily kick them to the curb. Should is a way or arguing with what IS - and I have never had much success doing that.
So what can we do instead? Keep...
Teachers often hear the question, "When am I going to use this?" This can be a sign of an interested student looking for how new information applies in life ...but 95% of the time its a student trying to make a decision about whether or not the energy required to "learn this" is worth it. They are looking for a way out. We do the same thing with our quest for overall health in our lives. Whenever it involves discomfort, we wonder - Is it really worth it? Do I really have to do this?
Sometimes we get caught up in goals like, "I'm going to get to the gym 3 times every week" or "I am going to eat nothing but chicken and grapefruit for a month." Focusing on such bland goals is miserable. What if you had goals like backpacking in the Sierras, dancing for 3 consecutive hours on a Saturday night, competing at your favorite sport, or participating in a walk to raise money. It's amazing how different a workout can feel when it has another...
Hi there! I’m so glad to be in touch with you again. Do you feel unfulfilled because you lack having a clear passion to follow in your life?
I understand that feeling and as someone who has been on both sides of the fence: finding my passion and fulfilling it, to figuring it out “what’s next” after it was fulfilled, I feel that I walked a wide spectrum and I can share some thoughts.
When I was 26 years old, I was living in Hawaii, happily married, running a management business and surfing every day. It was a great life. Yet, something within me kept pressing for “more”. There was a running desire that kept telling me: “You need to live your dreams and your time is now!”
In a sense, my passion found me, because it was so in my face constantly, almost as an obsessive thought, reminding me that I wanted to manifest it.
The problem was, that the dream that I wanted to manifest seemed pretty impossible.
For a few years, I didn’t...
What if you were stuck, for 3 days, inside a massive gym with 10,000 athletes and 15,000 fans? You would try to gain a deeper understanding of life of course.
Anyone involved in a sport or hobby that consists of growth and performance has a unique opportunity to practice life. There are highs and lows, struggles and successes, victories and defeats, and you get to practice your response to all of it. The more you advance in your passion the more you learn that managing your mind is the key to success. You learn that commitment extends beyond what you feel like doing. You learn that circumstances don't cause your feelings ...your thoughts about those circumstances do. And you learn that the best tool get yourself out of a negative head space is to be of service to someone else....
Have you ever wondered, "how come other people don't have to go through this?" Like an event that shatters you or that you have a really tough time shaking off? Do you have seasons where you feel stuck in a funk?
You find yourself wondering, "what do I do now?"
We had the privelege of reading a series of blogs written by a very resilent woman. She shared her experience of overcoming the life event when her father passed away unexpectidly and the very next day her mom died too. Within two days both her parents were gone.
This resilient woman, Kathryn Sanford, is someone who can give you hope when you feel overwhelmed by difficulties or struggle. Her empathy for others who go through similar life events is astounding, and even more impressive is how well she explains how she was able to "just keep moving forward".
In this podcast, you get to hear Jake and Whitney ask powerful questions that help uncover the golden nuggets Kathryn was...
About 5 months ago, I read Bulletproof Diet by Dave Asprey. It really gave me a better understanding about the perks of training your body to become "fat-adapted". Since I'm not a nutritionist and don't like suggesting anything except for sharing my own personal experience, I won't go into much detail about the science I learned from reading the book. If you are curious, I suggest you purchase the book on Amazon to get a deeper understanding. It's worth the read.
The main reason I wanted to write about this concept of adding a healthy fat into your coffee to substitute for breakfast is that I've gained amazing results from using one of Dave Asprey recommendations, MCT Oil.
When I share with people that I add this to my coffee- most people haven't heard of it and ask- "what's that"? So I'll explain the very basics.
MCT oil is Medium-chain Triglyceride, which are triglycerides whose fatty acids have an aliphatic tail of 6–12 carbon atoms. The fatty acids found in MCTs are called...
Finding your "soul mate" or life-long, best friend, plus romantic partner seems to get harder and harder as the years pass. Even with technology and all the different dating apps, so many ways to meet people, it doesn't simplify the process.
Unfortunately, often times it does the exact opposite of being helpful. All of this can leave us feeling unfulfilled, really busy, and unsuccessful.
Is there anything we can do differently?
Whitney shares how she took a "time-out" from dating to make sure she was the kind of person that the guy she wanted to attract would be attracted to. Sound a little contrary to meeting the right person? She thought so too at first.
After taking this intentional break to refocus, define personal values, and work on personal goals she was able to quiet some external distractions to start making major progress in becoming her BEST self.
Similarly, we've all seen sporting events where things just aren't clicking for one team and they call time-out. ...
What is something you desire to DO or ACHIEVE, but never have been successful at it in the past?
Maybe it's starting a business, losing 30lbs, cutting back on drinking, or earning a spot on a college sports team.
If you've put in any sacrifice towards a goal and failed, you may have been tempted to believe, "I've done this twice before and failed miserably", or "every time I've tried this it hasn't worked for me, so I must not be capable".
There are several obstacles we face when challenging ourselves with ambitious goals.
Some of these obstacles, that commonly occur, may include:
So, how do we overcome those obstacles and get back up again after failing with the belief it's possible?
Tune in below to the FitBar Effect...
Have there ever been times, where you got punched in the gut by life? Maybe a family member got sick unexpectedly or you received bad news you didn't expect, that took some time to process it all. Or wondered, how you would get through it with your spirits lifted enough to continue.
In this episode, Jake and Whitney discuss a tough season of Jake's life when he was faced with circumstances that knocked him off his feet. It was going through a divorce that challenged him and required time to process it all.
Life is unpredictable. It's how we decide to respond to these difficult situations that will either make us stronger or cause additional suffering.
It's our goal, to share this story so you can be encouraged, know you're not alone, and feel hopeful for the good the future has in store. As long as you are willing to obtain the right type of mindset, look past those circumstances, then you can always bounce back.
This podcast has a lot of "golden nuggets", ways you can learn...
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