Lately, I've been doing some deep forgiveness work on my dad. If you don't know my story, in a nutshell, my dad was a Ranger in Vietnam. He struggled with severe PTSD and alcoholism. He's a good man, but tormented by post-war illnesses.
I forgave him years ago, for all the trauma I experienced. So, I assumed this work was complete. In many ways, it had improved tremendously.
Recently, I noticed, in my self-coaching and time with the Lord, I was still getting offended easily by others. Which caused me to put internal walls up and harden my heart for hours, sometimes even an entire day.
"What's going on- I know better than to STAY angry or NOT forgive, quickly."
Thankfully, I'd finished an amazing book called, Experiencing the Father's Embrace by Jack Frost. I recommend you read this book, if you haven't.
The author addresses this exact problem- being offended easily and the need to control others which leads to unforgivness, anger, resentment, or bitterness....